Do You Have A “Joy List” ????

images_014Yes, you heard right, a “Joy List.” Something you want to do, just not for certain what?

Take a step back and think, really think. Do you get off-center, do you feel too much pressure, can you list five new restaurants or places you never knew existed, what about watching the squirrels scurry for their winter supply of food, or the last time you put on a CD and poured a cup of hot tea or your favorite beverage and relaxed to the musical sounds?

But this is supposed to be about writing and its pleasures. Well, if you are not writing, why? This could be you’ve lost your “Joy List,” and need to either find it or begin again.Of course, you know, this list will change, but you need to be ready to jump on the “joy” wagon.

These are the simple pleasures or activities that make you feel fuzzy inside. When you get this fuzzy feeling, everything seems right with the world, AND ignites your imagination.  Soon the flames give you energy, and you cannot wait to go on a short journey, even around the block, and then come back ready to tackle a blank screen in front of you or a blank white piece of paper.

How long has it been since you met a friend for brunch. I’m not talking big bucks, but something as great as a Waffle House breakfast. You talk and talked over the food, noise, and great coffee for two hours. Then you left, filled with a vibrancy you have not felt for a while. Why? Because of the interaction between you and your friend.

This also includes awakening your curiosity. Never thought about that, huh? I do not have the time, but why not? I have responsibilities, I need 1,500 words to add to my story. I need groceries. I need to have the car checked out. I need to . . I need to . . . Not if you are taking care of yourselves.

If there is something you want to do, DO IT.  I love animals, yet where I live, we cannot have pets. Yes, I agree, this would be yuck for some. So, I check out pet stores having a sale and offer to walk the dogs. I get the hugs, slurps, sloppy kisses, and return feeling like a happy parent, without the college expenses.

Maybe, you like music, but cannot afford an instrument, classes, or tickets to events. Hey, volunteer to be an usher at a symphony or a playhouse or even a school event.

All of you have not put on your “Joy List Hat,” have you? Try again and do something so simple, so fun, and so connecting with your friends, that you come home and head straight for the computer. Your mind is energized beyond belief, and your writing will show the positive side of you.

Sometimes, we need a kick in the A _ _ and this is the first on this week. Go ahead and do one of the simple items you wrote on your “Joy List.” You’ll never regret it.




Great ImageWe all need, no crave a little patience at times. Do you find your patience hiding from you? Of course, and it is never in the same place. You start on one thing and jump to another. Your toes tap without going anywhere. You need to get a grip on yourself, calm down, and take a deep breath. Why do we get in a position like this? Let’s take a stroll through different paths and see if one fits.

PRESSURE:  Do we realize how many times we put this heavy load upon our own self? We need to be in control of every situation, every second. We cannot relax and let someone else take over, if only for a day. That would be disaster in the making.

IMPATIENCE:  Sometimes, we jump in ahead of the game without listening to the rules. What if the rules have changed. We are now uneasy, fretful, even sweating a little. We try to turn this haste on our part to someone else. Why? Because someone depended upon our ability, and we screwed up.

DISCONTENT:  Do you find yourself dissatisfied, disappointed, unfulfilled, resentful, crabby, and the list goes on. Sit back, feet on the floor, and stare up at the ceiling. Focus. What comes into your mind? Work. Writing, Money, Worry. Loss, and this can be from a friend moving away, a death in the family, a child heading to college, or whatever else you find staring back at you from the ceiling. There, you have named this discontented creature and can find ways to move forward.

PERSEVERANCE:  No matter what the patience problems is, we all have the stamina to continue forward. We just have to dig a little deeper with a bulldog tenacity. We must hang tight and let go. Such an odd saying, but when you dissect these words, we all need a little keep trying and trying thrown at us. We all have the ability to be a little stubborn. This may be the time to dig in your heels and show someone else a little patience.

LENIENCY:  Yes, leniency to yourself and to others. Maybe, another word might fit you better, so try tolerance. All of us have the ability to shine in one way or another. We just do not shine in the same ways. The more you can understand about another person, or even a position, the better you become at understanding yourself. Where did your sense of humor go? The best gift we have is to be able to laugh at ourselves.

A little look backward, forward, and in the moment can relieve some of the impatience we encounter. Most of the time, it is not from someone or something, it is ourselves wanting out of the hole we created. Grab a pretend “key” and unlock the shackles you put on. WHEW!! Feel the patience return and be certain not to ask where it was hiding, you already know.

We have today. Make it a beautiful day and do not hurry. Be Patient.