Are You Afraid of Success?

You shake your head and wonder if I’ve gone off the last rocker. No way. A friend and I talked about how people are affected by this word. This got me thinking and remembering how we all go to great lengths to put roadblocks in our paths. When success stares back and you can feel the pressure of success, a few things can happen.

Sabotage – Have you ever heard of or seen people make mistakes on purpose? It happens. Why? People do not want to be known as the nerd, the smart one, the know it all, the one person that succeeded and you can name more and more. Everyone wants to be part of the group, a regular, a friend; not the geeks or brains of the group. This carries into all lives and positions.

I’ve know people, both men and women, trying to wipe the weight off their bodies. Then the pounds drop, the clothes hang on the bodies and they get scared. They do not know the person they see in the mirror, and this scares them. Instead of celebrating their new healthy lifestyles, sometimes the weight starts to add up and they begin to feel comfortable. They damage their own lives rather than face a new life.

A new employee excels at the position. The employee enjoys company of the workers, peers, and gets along with everyone. Within six months, the employee is promoted to a supervisory position. Her co-workers look at this promotion as a separation and their relationship changes. The employee does not want to be separated from the co-workers and instead of confronting them, decides to ‘screw up’ and get back the old job.

What about writers? The same sabotage happens. Writers are a group where everyone celebrates a new author, a new published book, a book signing, a contract and support all writers. You are a new writer and a new member of a writers’ group, critique group or so new no one knows your name. You attend meetings, conferences and each book signing you can. You watch and see what happens, how successful writers handle themselves and know you can do the same. THEN. . .

As a new writer you send out query letters, research the agents, publishers and e-book opportunities. This is over whelming. So the next query letter you make a few typos. They ask for 30 pages and you send out three chapters, which are 45 pages. You begin to sabotage yourself because of fear. How would I handle success? Who could I trust? Would my other writer friends shun me?

Now, you see the common denominator in all of the sabotage. FEAR. All of us are afraid of the unknown and why not? We have not traveled the road of success from the scrawny path to a huge road. It is a scary and  lonely avenue; but this does not have to happen. You worked hard with your craft. You pushed yourself forward and now you have a chance to be the success you always wanted. You can be and turn around and offer your hand to another individual. You can lead the way for others to follow in your footsteps. You can be the light for your fellow workers, dieters, writers, or whatever other position is out there.

Your success can turn into a footstep to others to climb the ladder, one step at a time. Every step up your ladder, you reach back and grab another’s hand. This is the sure fire award of success – pull others with you and share in the joy of the journey.

Drowning in E-mails

E-mails are rocking my boat. E-mails are sinking my ship, and I have neither a boat or a ship. I try to help out the “green areas” and end up with bill notices weighing down the lists. I now know to reach my doctor, dentist, eye specialist, I have to have an ID and a password. Some days I can’t even keep up with my coffee cup let alone all the passwords.

Okay, make a list. Then I changed email addresses and this adds to the confusion. Which email should I use? Will this require a new password? Then I try to tell the old email to disappear and I get the cold shoulder. My new email is waiting for places to send me, but at which password.

Do you remember the “old days”, when you got a ding…..You’ve Got Mail. Sometimes I wonder if I could get a job announcing this to all everyone? No, people would think a re-make of the movie was about to hit the theatres.

Platform is another word, we will check on later, but if you do not have a social medial network — oops. This involves more emails, more names, more passwords, more confusing areas where one little mind gets lost. Mine.

As a professional, fun-type, exercise instructor, I want to meet with everyone. I want to answer every e-mail. I do not want to offend anyone. Do I? Yep, I’m sure I do, but what  or how can I control all the e-mails that need answering. Sure, I do know spam and am not afraid to send this to the never-never land. Then I get shivers. Suppose that was a publisher wanting to talk to me; an agent who saw an e-mail I sent out.

I want to hear from everyone who has important information to share. With the publishing industry in a new updating process, we need to be able to access all information. We need all the “ins” and “outs” of the information suggested we read.

I’d love to hear how you handle all the e-mails you receive and if you give them identity numbers? You do not have to share everything, but what makes you know this is an important note. How do you prioritize your information.

I want to be there for everyone, answer each e-mail, and give as much as I receive. BUT, the balloon I carry got pricked and soared upward away from me. Please send in some of our solutions to the email process. If we get enough, I’ll make a special report and include a listing of solutions to e-mail overload. No names mentioned.

Until then, think up something you would dress and represent Hallo ween.

Happy Writing. Great Writing. Keep Writing.


Welcome to patriciachats!

Yes, Hello World, and welcome to my first blog with I hope we can have great conversations, discussions and learn new ideas. I want YOU to be a part of this blog and bring your comments to the table for further learning for all of us.

I am a retired 9-5 worker in many different fields: newspaper, circulation, accounts receivable, accounts payable, payroll, office manager. But upon retirement re-invented myself into a real people person. I am a certified fitness instructor for senior citizens, known as SilverSneakers. This is my joy. I take classes to keep up my certification, leanr new choreography, and keep my class members wondering what is next. I have the best members and have seen so many surprise themselves with exercise and balance and strengh. We are having a “Fall Festival” after our Wednesday afternoon class. Photography is not something I’ve ever mastered, but will try to get pics up. I am a writer, a poet, a reader, a lover of words, a mother, a grandmother, a great grandmother. I have a wonderful son and great daughter-in-law. (I’m quite lucky.) I have wonderful friends and neat acquaintances. I am a member of the Atlanta Writers Club Organization, Georgia Romance Writers and Romance Writers of America. I have a completed manuscript ready for the road to publishing land and working on its sequel. I also have two manuscripts ready and waiting those final revisions. I started out writing poetry, until the poems got longer and longer, thus novels became the new for me. In 1999, I published a chapbook with Sparrowgrass Chapbooks, Sisterville, West Virginia, named “All About Life, A collection of Poems.” I still go back to writing poetry when words get clogged in my thoughts.

I’ve dreamed about a blog and now this dream has come true. But, to work, this is OUR blog for OUR ideas, YOUR input, YOUR thoughts, OUR discussions, and think of this as our patriciachats around the breakfast table; coffee, coffee, tea, tea, and talk. Then how about a luncheon on a patio. We are outside and the sights, sounds, smells stir our emotions into new avenues of writings. Okay, there will be times we are at dinner catching up on happenings and ideas. We might be at a diner, a dive, or a drive in. Sorry, Guy, could not resist some of the best food on television. We might relax over a glass of wine from a hard days work and let our thoughts flow across the table or even under the table. These patriciachats are for everyone and will include everyone. I will need your feedback, your desires for chats. We will need to discover a new writer, a new book, and let everyone know with a short review. I want to come in sometimes and give you tips on new exercises, Tai Chi, health information, diet, NO not how but the foods to eat and the foods to walk away from. I might even throw in a new item to cook.

I want this to be a good time, but we also have to keep up with the publishing industry, the Indie Books, and check for new ideas and new platforms to keep us up on our writing and the industry. We also need to share any new events going on in our areas: your area, my area and any other area. Writers Conferences and how about writers retreats. Wouldn’t it be a hoot to rent a cabin, and write all the new stories we want over a weekend. Think about – no make-up, a bathrobe all day, everyone helping cook, (and the dishwashing). Just a ‘good ole girls’ weekend.

All of us have lives to live, pressures to assume, problems to surmount and a lot of other things. On this blog, we are just us. Remember the old saying, “let your hair down and scream.” This is where I want us to connect minus the scream.

Okay, now you have an idea of the blog. I will post three (3) times a week and welcome your comments seven (7) times a week. Let’s make this OUR blog and if you want to discuss any topic, please suggest one. If I am unaware, I can research; better yet, maybe one of the readers is the top dog in this area.

I still have a lot to learn about WordPress, so overlook any sloppy mistakes. I will be a quick study and a quick learner. I will learn to link this to different areas, so we can share with our writing friends on Facebook, LinkedIn, and Tweeter. But, for tonight, may I wish you great dreams, and fantasy thoughts.

Patricia, Happy Writing, Happy Blogging

Dreams do come true, if you dream long enough, hard enough, and BELIEVE.